| 1. | what kind of behavior could be considered a sign of relationship abuse? |
| a. your partner takes a nap while you're talking to him or her about something important. | |
| b. your partner tells you that you're fat and ugly. | |
| c. your partner lets you know that he/ze/she doesn't like it when you "flirt" with other people. | |
| d. you're a vegetarian, and your partner makes you eat at a restaurant with no veggie menu. | |
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| 2. | what's a good way to help a friend who's in an abusive relationship? |
| a. offer to beat up your friend's partner. | |
| b. offer to burn down your friend's partner's house. | |
| c. listen when your friend wants to talk about the relationship. | |
| d. remind your friend that he/ze/she is beautiful, smart, and fun to be around. | |
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| 3. | true love is... |
| a. never having to say, "i'm sorry." | |
| b. feeling that your partner's needs are just as important as your own. | |
| c. when your partner is jealous and possessive--that's how you know he/ze/she loves you. | |
| d. when you and your partner love spending all your time together. | |
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| 4. | why do people abuse their partners? |
| a. because the abuser drinks too much and can't control him/hir/herself when drunk. | |
| b. because the parnter makes the abuser so angry. | |
| c. because the abuse is trying to control the partner. | |
| d. because they don't have much money and this causes stress in the relationship. | |
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| 5. | which of the following behaviors could be considered a sign of dating violence? |
| a. you and your partner are having an argument in the car, and your partner keeps swerving into the oncoming lane until you agree. | |
| b. when you try to end the relationship, your partner says he/ze/she can't live without you and threatens suicide. | |
| c. you have an argument about what to do on a friday night, so you decide to spend the evening alone and don't speak until the next day. | |
| d. after you go out on a friday night with your friends, your partner falsely acuses you of cheating. | |
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| 6. | which of the following may be a reason a person would have a difficult time leaving an abusive relationship? |
| a. the victim likes the abuse--it spices up their sex life. | |
| b. the victim still loves his/hir/her partner. | |
| c. the victim feels obligated to help his/hir/her partner stop drinking and is afraid the drinking will get worse if he/ze/she leaves. | |
| d. the victim has been lying to you, and the abuse isn't really happening. | |
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| 7. | which of the following is an important part of a healthy, loving relationship? |
| a. spending all your time together. | |
| b. valuing each other's opinions and ideas. | |
| c. having sex everyday. | |
| d. your partner is totally hot. | |
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| 8. | how do you keep safe in a dating relationship? |
| a. communicate with your partner about your expections. | |
| b. carry a gun. | |
| c. just don't date--it's the only way to stay safe. | |
| d. get to know yourself and your beliefs before jumping into relationships. |
1. a, b, c & d
2. c & d
3. b
4. c
5. a, b & d
6. b & c
7. b
8. a & d
7-8: you're a genius--make sure everyone knows. just kidding, you know a lot about dating violence. that's a good thing because it increases your chance of staying away from abusive relationships and shows that you can be a good friend to someone who is being abused.
4-6: you know a thing or two about dating violence! but remember, the more you know the better chance you have of staying safe and building strong, healthy relationships.
1-3: you may not have done so well on this quiz, but you're visiting a website about dating violence, and that shows that you're willing to learn about it. keep up the good work!
| directions: choose 1 if the statement reflects something you don't want at all. choose 2 if the statement reflects something you don't think you want. choose 3 if the statement reflects somethind you want sometimes. choose 4 if the statement reflects something you definitely want. | |
| 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 | |
| 1. you spend every weekend evening with your partner. | |
| 2. your partner pays for the date every time. | |
| 3. you feel obligated to "repay" your partner for the date. | |
| 4. you and your partner are free to have other friendships. | |
| 5. your friends keep their promises. | |
| 6. your girl/boyfriend is jealous. | |
| 7. your partner calls you names in the "heat of an argument." | |
| 8. your girl/boyfriend lies to you. | |
| 9. you lie to your partner. | |
| 10. your girl/boyfriend talks about you behind your back. | |
| 11. your girl/boyfriend pushes you around. | |
| 12. your partner has different tastes in music and movies than you do. | |
| 13. you spend time alone. | |
| 14. your partner does things s/he doesn't like to do just to be with you. |
there are no right or wrong answers. you decide for yourself.
