physical violence: any attempt to hurt or scare partner physically--hitting, biting, hair pulling, tripping, kicking, scratching, grabbing, pushing, shoving, choking, burning.

sexual violence: treating date like a sex object, manipulation - "if you loved me you would," unwanted or uncomfortable touching, continued sexual advances after being told "no," refusing to talk about or use contraception, physically forced sex. (for more information about sexual violence see new beginnings' main webpage)

emotional violence: putting partner down, disrespect for partners feelings and opinions, ignoring or the "silent treatment," mind games or making the partner feel crazy, telling "secrets" to others, stalking.

threats and intimidation: using looks, actions, expressions or a loud voice to intimidate partner, smashing or throwing objects (next time it could be you...), threatening to commit suicide, threating physical harm, threatening to leave if partner doesn't agree.

possessiveness: controlling actions and activities, using jealously to control partner's friendships, accusations of cheating.

verbal abuse: name calling, swearing at partner, constantly interrupting partner, publicly humiliating, embarrassments, criticizing, put downs.