Male Victims/Survivors

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New Beginnings does not discriminate based on sex, age, race, health status (including HIV-positive), physical, mental or emotional ability, sexual orientation, gender identity/ expression, socio-economic class, national origin, immigration status, or religious or political affiliation.  It is a common misconception that women are the only victims of violence.  Men are entitled to the same services and support as any other survivors served by New Beginnings. New Beginnings provides confidential, free, non-judgmental support, information, and referrals to male victims.  Support groups can be made available for male victims.

According to the New Hampshire Violence Against Men Survey:

  • 1 in 20 New Hampshire men reported being sexually assaulted; over two thirds (68%) of those assaults occurred before the victim’s 18th birthday.
  • Nearly one in four men (24%) reported being physically assaulted by an intimate partner
    • 7% of men surveyed (NCADV Violence Against Women Survey) reported being physically assaulted, and/or stalked by a female intimate partner/cohabiting/spouse*

Male victims may face unique hurdles to reporting the crime and to getting the medical assistance and emotional support they need and deserve.

Reasons male victims may hesitate to seek help include:

  • Belief that the police, medical professionals, and even advocates will be insensitive to their experience because they are men.
  • Belief that women can’t be perpetrators of sexual assault/men can’t be victims, so what they are feeling can’t be justified.
  • Self-blame.
  • Fear that people will believe they are homosexual.
  • Shame.

There are many reasons that male victims do not come forward and report being raped, but perhaps the biggest reason for many males is the fear of being perceived as homosexual. However, male sexual assault has nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the attacker or the victim, just as a sexual assault does not make the victim/survivor gay, bisexual or heterosexual. It is a violent crime that affects heterosexual men as much as gay men. The phrase “homosexual rape,” for instance, which is often used by uninformed persons to designate male-male rape, camouflages the fact that the majority of the rapists are not generally homosexual (Donaldson, 1990).

Sexual assault, regardless of gender, is a crime and is NEVER the victims fault.

Reminder: One-to-one conversations and meetings between a New Beginnings advocate and a victim/survivor are protected by confidentiality and won’t be shared (including to confirm or deny use of services) with immigration authorities, medical personnel, law enforcement, or any other third party without explicit written consent (except in cases involving the suspected abuse/neglect of a child, elder or incapacitated adult, or when it is determined someone is a threat to themselves/others).

*Violence Against Women Survey. 2000. National Institute of Justice and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.