1) know thyself. it's okay to have some alone time when you're in a relationship. take this time to explore your own interests, desires, and beliefs. take this time to get to know yourself. the better you know yourself, the better chance you have of being in a positive relationship.

2) consider expectations and boundaries. decide what you expect from a relationship and what behaviors you will not tolerate from your boyfriend or girlfriend.

3) communicate expections. communication about sexual issues can be confusing and embarrassing. guessing or making assumptions about another person's feelings or desires can be dangerous and extremely hurtful. you can avoid these situations by talking things out.

4) pay attention to your feelings. if a situation feels wrong or scary, you may be in danger. trust your feelings and try to get out of that situation.

5) notice changes in your relationship. if someone stops respecting your wishes and your boundaries, this person may end up taking advantage of you. be assertive.

6) believe that it can happen to you.