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NEGOTIATION & FAIRNESS: Each partner seeks mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict. They accept change and are willing to compromise.
NONTHREATENING BEHAVIOR: Each person talks and behaves so that his/her partner feels comfortable and safe expressing him/herself.
RESPECT:
Couples will value each other's opinions, listen to each other non-judgementally, and provide emotional affirmation and understanding.
TRUST & SUPPORT:
Each partner supports the other's life goals, and respects their rights to their own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions.
HONESTY & ACCOUNTABILITY:
Each partner takes responsibility for him/herself, acknowledges past use of violence, admits being wrong, and communicates openly and truthfully.
GENDER EQUALITY: The relationship decisions are based on individual needs rather than gender.
SHARED RESPONSIBILITY:
There is mutual agreement on a fair distribution of work and decision making.
ECONOMIC PARTNERSHIP: Money decisions are made together, and both partners benefit from financial agreements.
What is your healthy relationship score? Rate your relationship on a scale of 0 to 10 in each category:
70-80: Great, it looks like
you've got a good thing going. Shoot for 10's in every category!
60-69: You're doing fairly well, but there are definitely areas that could use some improvement.
Target the categories with the lowest scores, and
try to identify with your partner ways in which you both can improve your healthy relationship score!
40-59: You might want to evaluate your needs and desires in this relationship. Consider seeing a couples
counselor, if both partners are willing to look at changing for the better.
Less than 40: There is a serious imbalance of power in this relationship. If it continues like this, it can be very psychologically damaging
to the partner who is being controlled. Continue to read more about domestic and dating violence. |
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